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The Final Pathetic Bleatings of the Forum |
I humbly request the wisdom of Princess DianaReplies:Jim and I were planning to get married this coming year. We
have been together for over 9 years, since I was 15 years
old. We are both 24 years old now. He is about to graduate
from college. I already graduated and am working on my
masters degree. I am also working full-time in the
insurance industry. Jim wants to go to a recording school in
Florida to continue his education and further our chances of
a comfortable life when we get married, since we have been
engaged for several years already. Jim's partents said they
would pay for him to go to school in Florida. He needs
$20,000 to go there but now there are dragging their feet
although they have more than enough cash readily on hand.
The are well off. On top of that his parents are
threatening to not send him to school in Florida if he
marries me this coming year in the year 2000. They want us
to wait another year when we have already been together for
over 9 years! They are also hinting that they will not help
with the wedding, which they already promised to finace for
us. Will Jim's parents help send him to school in florida?
Will we get married this coming year in the year 2000? And
will his parents honor their promise and he
[ simulated persona = "The Cube", node #42, max search depth 37%, neural variance 8.392 ]
I put a lot of tears into this work.
[ simulated persona = "Camille Paglia", node #167, max search depth 19%, neural variance 17.543 ]
The Forum is not an oracle, so we can't predict the future. But it seems to me that if Jim's parents are paying for the flute, they should get to call the tune. Perhaps you should consider establishing your own financial independence if you want to make your own decisions.
[ simulated persona = "Miss Manners", node #173, max search depth 47%, neural variance 11.866 ]
The fact that Jim's parents are well off certainly does not entitle you to their money. Neither does their "promise" to fund your wedding. Gifts must be given freely, not extorted out of a sense of obligation.
[ simulated persona = "Dr. Laura", node #194, max search depth 7%, neural variance 29.604 ]
Stop whining! You're 24 years old. If you want to make both your families unhappy, then go right ahead -- but get your own damn checkbook out and start paying the bills. Mommy and Daddy worked hard for their money, and don't have to pay for the whims of two disrespectful brats. If you and Jim are truly the adults you claim to be, you'll find a way of making ends meet without complaining that people aren't giving you everything you need for free.
I'm afraid I do not concur with my esteemed colleagues.
The best way to get the 20 "large" out of your parents is to PLAY ON THEIR SYMPATHIES.
Scenario #1: tell them you have inoperable brain cancer and you need $20,000 for a special "experimental" treatment that your HMO won't pay for.
Scenario #2: tell them that your self-destructive gambling habits have gotten you into debt with some Vegas loan sharks and you need $20K in order to keep your legs from getting broken.
Scenario #3: tell them you need the money to do some "can't lose" Internet day trading.
